Does Real Love Still Exist In The New Decade?
My lords and ladies,
What. A. Fucking. Time.
2020 has been like getting to the end of the bachelor finale when the Honey Badger picked NOBODY. The uncertainty, the pain, the unknown and more importantly the inevitable question: does real love still exist in this not so sparkly new decade?
To every couple, person and business who have been affected by the virus who shall not be named, we see you, we hear you and we love you.
We hear your concerns, we feel your pain and we are here to provide you with the help, the resources, the love, the shoulders to cry and more importantly, our official appointment as Chief Love Queens and Wedding Guardian Angels.
People all react differently in crises. The brides and grooms worldwide who have seen two years of work, time, energy and money under threat, yep – it’s a kick in the guts.
Sometimes we don’t know whether to fast forward through the seven stages of grieving or frankly sit and have a good cry about the woulda, coulda, shoulda of a situation we simply cannot control.
So, what are four things can you do today if you’re getting married in 2020 and concerned about your wedding going ahead?
1. Acknowledge the unknown
Call out the big ass elephant in the room. Not having control over the comings’ and goings’ of our lives is a crappy feeling. Call it out, make sure everyone is aware – you are scared of the unknown! We all are! Whether it’s a big scream, a tantrum or just a day of feeling a bit sorry for yourself, acknowledgement is your first step.
2. Get the facts straight
Stay updated on the Federal Government’s official declarations of love here – as of 18 March 2020, indoor gatherings of 100 people or more are banned. Or ask your vendors – we are an ongoing source of information.
3. Talk to your vendors
We’re an understanding bunch. We have to be – we’re in the business of love. And we gotchu! Whether it’s a postpone, a cancel, a reduced guest list or spitballing some new ideas… you better believe we’re ready to rumble on your new and improved wedding 2.0.
4. Make a Plan A, B and C
Whip out your textas and cardboard and have a good old fashioned Crafternoon. Throw some glitter, a touch of water colour – create the vision of board of what your best case scenarios are (I’m going to list some more tips on how to come to that decision below.
What are my potential alternatives to my original wedding plans?
Reduce your guest list to under 100 and go ahead with your original plan once you have approval from all of your vendors (primarily your venue)
Have a small legals only ceremony now with your closest and mostest and do the big party later
Free Facebook or YouTube live your wedding to friends and family overseas
Postpone your wedding for 6-12 months or to 2021 (make these arrangements quickly as your vendors will be trying to accommodate many couples)
Opt for a future weekday wedding to reduce future costs and protect your current investment
The most important thing to ask yourself is – why are we doing this and what is the most important thing to us both as a couple?
I hope the answer is: love and togetherness.
Together we can support, love and empower each other during a pretty testing time.
We’re here to guide you through uncertain and unpredictable times an offer you a place of solace and information when the ever-growing list of questions just gets a bit too long.
All our love, sparkle and romance,
The Love Diaries XXX
Claudia Neal-Shaw
Love Queen | Wedding Celebrant