5 ways to move you closer to a Modern Romance

In 2015, I read a book called Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari. You can check it out here.

The focus was simple. What do modern relationships look like today? And why should we care?

It’s a glorious combo of human experiment, cultural dating norms and what it means to almost exclusively date from behind a screen.

The result?

A hilarious recount of scientific study that confirms one thing – nobody has the faintest idea of what it actually means to meaningfully date in the 21st century. Because it turns out – we all suck at online dating.

Alas, even though we suck, we persevere.

I met my boyfriend on Bumble almost 5 years ago and when he walked into the bar for our first date, I thought – yep, this is my person.

The majority of couple stories I tell during wedding ceremonies have a similar plot line.

Person meets person online. Banter ensues. Meeting plans are made.

And then, the kicker.

The back and forth of…

Hey, how are you?

Good thanks, how are you?

Yeah good thanks… (romance dies)

Now, ya gal loves a love letter (duh) but using the dating apps with minimal effort or as a platform to learn how to write a sentence is not what the world needs.

Here are 5 ways to break the ice and get to the crux of good conversation sooner rather than later because who knows, your Loverino could be right behind the screen…

1.     What was something that brought you joy as a kid but you don’t do anymore?

2.     If you could have dinner with 5 people (alive or dead), who would they be and why?

3.     What was the last thing you watched/read/listened to that made you want to tell someone about?

4.     If you could choose to have one talent/skill/super power, what would it be and why?

5.     What was the last thing that made you smile and why? 

These questions can actually be used in any conversation. With your date, your partner, your friend, your colleague, the Dalai Lama etc etc

Give it a crack and let me know what you think.